When I was younger, I did not enjoy “domestic” type jobs around the house. I thought they were boring and had to force myself (for the most part) to do them. I had a rebellious attitude and heart toward many of the old-fashioned stereotypes of women. Why should I be the one stuck with the laundry when I had been changing diapers all day and chasing toddlers? Why should I bother to mend pants when I can just go out and buy another pair? So what if the living room wasn’t tidy…I’d been homeschooling the kids all day. Was I a maid too? While I loved taking care of my children, I did not love taking care of my home.
Now that I’m older, I’ve grown into an entirely different mindset. I LIKE taking care of my home. I love learning all of the skills I neglected or trudged through during my younger years. I’ve found that the closer I’ve grown to God, the more I’ve grown to enjoy the role He created for me as a woman and all of the “jobs” that entails. When I was younger, I was often disorganized and messy. Now my home is a place of peace and order (usually, lol). God is not a God of chaos. Everything in the universe has its place and purpose. Our homes need to reflect the God we serve.
I find when I do things His way that I’m filled with a contentment and direction that was entirely unknown to me years ago. I wish I had known then what I know now. Doing things God’s way is not always easier, but it’s always the best way. It’s also the only way to put yourself in a position to receive the full measure of the blessings he wants to pour over you and your family. I can’t tell you how many things, even little things that are just wants and not needs, that God has taken care of and given us. The more I pursue His way, the more I see Him working in our lives.
There are no excuses why a healthy wife and mother can’t take care of her home. Don’t tell me it’s because you’ve been teaching the kids all day (been there, done that) or that you are tired (I am too!), or that you don’t know how to do something (learn!) or the kids keep wrecking it all behind you (train them not to). If you are struggling with keeping your home, you CAN train yourself (and your kids) to do what needs to be done.
The first step is nurturing the right heart & attitude concerning your daily tasks and the things you still need to learn. I list this as the FIRST step because if you don’t have the right heart about something, you will never improve in the long-term. If you feel disaffected having to pick up socks off the floor your husband threw down for the 256th time, you aren’t going to make any progress. Why let it bother you? What’s faster and more conducive to happiness and contentment? Picking them up or making a big deal out of it in your mind and letting it fester in your soul all day? You have to look at being a wife and mom as your job. What sort of review would a boss write about your “work performance” lately? It’s a gift to get to stay home. It may not be super popular for me to say this, but I believe being a stay-at-home wife and mom is not only a gift, but also part of God’s design for the family. Start working on a grateful & cheerful attitude.
The second step is starting with something – no matter how small! Just keep going from one small step to another. Work on building new habits and learning new things. When I was just starting this journey, one of the things I had to learn was not to step over something on the floor, but to pick it up and put it away, right then and there. It was a small thing, but it made a big difference. Now I can’t stand to have anything on my floor, lol. It drives me nuts whereas before I could ignore it all day.
The third step is to get rid of things and start finding a place for everything. If everything has a place, it’s much easier to keep things clean. There are lots of blogs and websites that have terrific ideas on how to organize everything from closets to under your kitchen sink. Pick one thing to start with and go from there.
The fourth step is to LEARN! What is it that you can learn to be a better wife, mother, house-keeper, etc.? Here are some things I’ve learned or am learning to save money or contribute to a better lifestyle, make my husband happy and other similar reasons that all have to do with being a keeper at home:
- Cleaning and organizing – I’m often on the lookout for new and better ways of doing things and work to keep my home environment attractive and peaceful.
- Sewing – I’m JUST starting to learn how to sew so I can mend my husband’s pants, make gifts and create things for our home.
- Canning & food preservation
- Cooking from scratch – I’ve never been a great cook, but am hoping to change that. I’ve started learning new recipes and am trying new things like making yeast rolls instead of buying them, etc.
- Couponing – I’ve saved as much as 35% on some of our shopping trips.
What do YOU need or want to learn?
The fifth step is to never quit and just keep going. If you fail, don’t beat yourself up. Just do better the next day. After a while things will fall into place.
It’s never too late to become a GREAT (and happy / contented) keeper of your home!
1 Timothy 5:14 – I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
Titus 2:5 – To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.